Wedding etiquette for the father

It's interesting:
"I am quite sure that Linda will want to improve Paul a little because that's what wives do. Above all else I hope she'll teach him to entertain in this style and continue this fine hosting tradition."

Your most important role as father of the bride is to make sure your daughter and your wife are happy with the wedding, from the preparations to the day itself. Make them feel special by asking how you can contribute to the wedding and what kind of support you can offer and by participating eagerly during the proceedings. If you are the groom's dad, take your lead from your son. Have a chat with him and ask how you can be of assistance.

1. Expenses

   • Contemporary weddings allow for more options regarding who pays for the wedding. Traditionally, this task lay on the shoulders of the father of the bride, but today, the groom's family shares the expenses or the couple pays for it themselves. Offer to pay for the wedding, regardless of the couple's plans, since this is customary. If they insist on paying, thank them and ask how else you can contribute.

   Speech

   • As host, the father of the bride is expected to give a speech to welcome and thank the guests (on behalf of his wife and himself). The speech can provide insight on your special bond with your daughter, and bestow your blessings on the newlyweds. The groom's father (as co-host) may do likewise. Both speeches should be warm, positive and sincere. Be careful not to mention sensitive topics.

   Dance

   • The father-daughter dance at the wedding reception is an elegant way to convey family togetherness. Choose a simple song with a slow ballad or waltz beat, and some simple steps. If you are not accustomed to dancing, rehearse with your daughter beforehand so you feel and look comfortable on the day itself.

   Attire

   • Ask the couple about the wedding theme and what they recommend you wear. Traditionally, the father of the bride dons a tuxedo, but today's weddings are more versatile and allow for more options. Choose your attire according to the formality of the wedding, the location, and the theme. This also goes for the father of the groom. Wear whatever the bride's father is wearing, to show your equal roles in the wedding entourage.

   Giving Away the Bride

   • Customarily, it is the father of the bride's duty to give away his daughter. However, if you do not have a close relationship with your daughter, or if she was raised by her stepfather, grandfather, or uncle instead, she might choose to be given away by one of them. Respect your daughter's decision and let her know you will be there for her with your blessings.

Source: www.ehow.com

Tags: father bride, your daughter, with your, with your daughter, allow more, allow more options