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Writing wedding vows yourself gives each spouse the chance to say how they truly feel about their husband or wife in front of everyone. Exchanging vows that you've written yourself can turn a beautiful ceremony into an extraordinarily emotional and romantic wedding. If you're considering writing your own wedding vows read on for tips on making them perfect.
Instructions
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Before writing wedding vows yourself, check with the person who will marry you to make sure you are allowed to write you own vows. Some churches, ministers, or judges may not allow it- or they may prefer you say the traditional vows and then add a special prayer or personalized exchange in addition.
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Once you've been granted permission to write your own wedding vows decide how far off the traditional vows you want to go. You can use the traditional marriage vows as a guide and add or delete certain phrasing or you can totally write you own vows from the heart. You can find tons of wedding vow samples in wedding planning books and online. (For other ways to personalize your wedding see the link in the Resources Section below.)
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Make sure you and your future spouse are on the the same page as far as the style of the marriage vows. You don't want to pour your heart out and have your guests crying, only to have our husband write humorous vows. Serious and humorous are both okay, just make sure you both have the same general idea how you want to come across when saying your vows to each other.
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If you're looking for ideas of write your vows consider what's important in your life. If your culture and ethnicity are very important to you consider finding inspiration there. If one or both of you is Irish you could use phrasing from the Irish Marriage Blessing (May God be with you and bless you- May you see your children's children. May you be poor in misfortune, Rich in blessings, May you know nothing but happiness
From this day forward.) If you're getting remarried or children are involved you may want tweak the traditional wedding vows to include the children. For instance "-I ___ take you ____ to be my wedded husband/wife. And I take ____ as my own loving child. To have and to hold..."- Or maybe you admire your grandparents for their loving 65 year marriage. You could take the same vows they took or draw inspiration from their relationship and devotion to each other.
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You may also consider writing wedding vows yourself if you're having an interfaith marriage. For example, if a Jew and Christian are marrying or if one spouse is religious and the other is not this is a good way to go. You can each say what is important to you while adding your own religious flare and without "-choosing"- one religion over the other during the wedding ceremony.
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Give yourself plenty of time to write your marriage vows. Even a week before the wedding is likely not enough time. You want to make sure you're saying everything in your heart. This will hopefully be the only time you'll say wedding vows and you want it to be perfect. Once you've got something on paper, leave it alone for a day or two. Go back later and edit or tweak what you've written. Do this three or four times until you've written exactly what you want to say to your spouse.
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Do not be afraid to write the your wedding vows on a small card to read from. You may think you won't need the card, but during the ceremony your emotions may get the best of you. You don't want to forget what you really want to say to your spouse so take the card just in case. Remember you won't have a prompt from the priest or minister since you won't be taking the traditional vows. When the ceremony is over save that little card and frame it or give it to your spouse on your first anniversary.
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Practice the wedding vows you've written aloud in the mirror. Get comfortable with the phrasing and the general idea of what you want to say. It's okay if you don't say the wording exactly as you've written it. While you want to practice so you don't forget anything important, it's not a good idea to try to memorize the vows or you risk appearing rehearsed and not genuine.
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