Tuesday, November 12, 2013

How to word wedding invitations for remarriage

word wedding invitations for remarriage

It's interesting:
"Sorry if the speeches drag on. Wedding receptions can be a bit like an X Factor results show. You just want to skip through the talky bits to find out ..."

Marrying again is cause for celebration. This time around, you have fewer conventions you must follow. You are free to word the invitation to reflect your more mature and independent circumstances. Weddings for second (or subsequent) marriages tend to be more low key than first marriages, but you still have plenty of opportunity to share your joy.


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      Choose the level of formality or informality that you want to convey with the invitation. The level of formality in the invitation gives your guests an idea of what to expect, including giving a clue to what they should wear. You convey this level through the choice of wording, paper and printing style.

      The level of formality is only slightly linked to the number of people you plan to invite. Generally, the fewer guests, the more informal. But if you want to have a formal invitation for a half-dozen people, go for it. If you want to have a handbill with graphics that says, "-We're getting married! Come on in!"- for a wedding of 350 people, go ahead. You can carry either off with taste and panache as long as you're confident in the style you want to convey. The level of formality will be indicated by the wording you choose.

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      Decide whether you will follow traditional language that names the hosts.

      If you decide to name the hosts, the most traditional wording is for the bride's parents: Mr. and Mrs. Traditional Mom and Dad request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter ...

      Use a combination of the bride's and groom's parents or step-parents: Mr. and Mrs. Traditional and Mr. and Mrs. Inlaw request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter, Mrs. Sally Bride, and their son, Mr. Jon Groom ...

      It's a little less formal, but a traditional way for a couple entering a second marriage would be simply to name the bride and groom: Mr. John Groom and Ms. Mary Bride request the honor of your presence at their marriage ...

      It's not uncommon these days for adult children to host a wedding for their mother or father, so the traditional wording would be: Mr. &- Mrs. Marshal Daughter and Mr. and Mrs. John Son request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their mother, Mrs. Marge Mother, to Mr. George Second Husband ...

      Or if children of both bride and groom are hosting: Mr. &- Mrs. John Son and Mr. and Mrs. Marshal Daughter and Mr. &- Mrs. James Son request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their parents ...

      You'll notice that whoever is named as the host or hosts, they are referred to in third person--"-they"- and "-their,"- not "-we"- and "-our."- Further, the wives' names are submerged in "-Mr. and Mrs."-

      To loosen the formality, use first and last names of everyone, men and women, and drop the titles. Substitute "-invite you to share the celebration of their marriage"- or "-invite you to witness their marriage"- or similar wording.

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      Drop the hosts from the invitation altogether. The formal way: "-The honor of your presence is requested at the marriage of Ms. Sally Bride to Mr. Jon Groom ..."-

      Go informal: "-You are invited to the marriage of Sally Bride to Jon Groom ..."-

      Or go even more informal: "-Please join us as we say our vows ..."-

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      Lessen the impact of how you choose to designate hosts by beginning with a poem or a quote. This can be taken from Scripture, such as, "-I am my beloved and my beloved is mine,"- Song of Solomon 6:3.

      If your clergy person is advising about the wedding, ask her to suggest some Scripture. If you want to look up your own, searchable texts of most English versions of the bible are available at www.biblegateway.com. Searchable versions of The Revised Standard and New Revised Standard are available at bible.oremus.org.

      Choose lines of poetry or quotes. Nicholas Gordon has a list of dozens of poems for every wedding situation you might think of at www.poemsforfree.com. A favorite of web searchers is one for people remarrying their original spouses, which begins:

      We bid you help us celebrate

      A day of pomp and pride

      On which we tie a nuptial knot

      We previously untied.

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      Continue the level of formality or informality through the manner of designating numbers and names. If you use "-Mr. and Mrs.,"- continue the traditional approach by spelling out all numbers for the time and date: Saturday, the twelfth of June, two thousand ten, at six o'clock in the evening.

      If you have dropped the titles and want to convey a more informal atmosphere, change to ordinal numbers: Saturday, June 12, 2010, at 6 p.m.

Tips &- Warnings

  • The location of your wedding and reception will affect the level of formality of the ceremony and therefore should be reflected in your invitation. A "-gather round"- ceremony in a park suggests informality, but a solemn communion service in a traditional church followed by a blow-out reception in a hotel might be better conveyed through formal wording.

Source: www.ehow.com

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