create your wedding vows
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The practice of exchanging vows began with ancient Romans who plainly spoke their pledges to one another- modern couples prefer to make their vows more personal and meaningful. In most states a marriage isn't legal unless you make a verbal contract to one another. You may choose to exchange the traditional I dos in addition to your personal vows, or you can state your commitment in your personal vows. Ask your officiant to explain to you the exact requirements in your state.
Instructions
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Discuss your vows with your fiance. You should come up with an ideal length for each of your vows. You may also agree to use a similar tone in your vows, such as making them funny, religious or very serious.
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Create an outline. This helps you be sure that you're getting your point across, and it also helps you make your vows the right length. You may decide to start with something you love about your fiance, then speak about what you're promising to him and end with how much you love him. Include any quotes, lyrics or religious passages that you want to use in your vows when you're writing your outline.
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Write out exactly what you want to say. Using the outline as your guide, try to write in a stream-of-consciousness fashion. This makes your vows seem more natural and personal. You can also edit out anything later on that doesn't fit.
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Read your vows out loud to yourself to hear how they sound. Time yourself reading them at the speed you will use at the altar.
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Exchange vows with your fiance, if you've decided to read your vows to each other in advance. Skip this step if you've decided to surprise one another.
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Read the vows out loud to a trusted friend. You'll get more practice delivering them, and your friend can point out if your words don't sound like you.
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Write out the vows on a small card. While the groom can carry his vows in his pocket, the bride can give this card to the officiant to hold onto. He can then pass it to her at the appropriate point in the ceremony.
Tips &- Warnings
Not all officiants will allow you to write your own vows. For instance, if you're getting married in a Catholic ceremony you may be required to recite the traditional vows. Get permission from your ceremony site and officiant before writing your own vows.
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