Etiquette on wedding guests that do not rsvp

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Etiquette and tradition dictate that, when asked to, guests RSVP to a wedding. It is important to know who plans to attend and who does not when planning an event as complicated and expensive as a wedding. Most wedding guests will need to RSVP no later than two to four weeks prior to the wedding. Your wedding invitation should clearly state the date you need to receive your RSVP cards by. If you do not have all your RSVP cards by the date you requested, you will need to determine what course of action you will take for these guests.

1. Call

   • The easiest way to find out if a guest will be attending your wedding is simply to call him. If you are not comfortable doing this yourself, have a parent or bridesmaid do this. The guest may have forgotten to send the RSVP card, or it could have been lost in the mail.

   Email

   • Another contact option is to email the guest. Although a little less formal, this is an easy way to contact your guest without putting her on the spot. Send a friendly email letting her know that you haven't received her RSVP card and wanted to make sure she received her invitation. If you do not have her email address, ask a friend or family member who may have it.

   Assume

   • When all else fails, assume the guest will be coming. Include him in the headcount for the caterer and, if you are having a seating chart, include his name. You can consider placing him at an outer or back table in the event that he does not attend- this way the main tables will still be full.

   Plan For More

   • It is generally recommended that you plan for at least 10 percent more people to show up. Some people may assume that their invitation was lost- you may have guests bring additional people- or you may have invited guests who sent a regret but are able to come to the wedding at the last minute. Unless you are prepared to have them asked to leave, you will want to have food and seating available so that invited guests who sent an RSVP won't suffer.

Source: www.ehow.com

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